It looks like being the one everyone counts on and never asking what that's worth. It looks like undercharging because naming your real value feels aggressive. It looks like minimizing your strengths so someone else doesn't feel threatened. It looks like obsessing over a weakness that isn't even mission critical instead of owning the fact that you're a Badass. It looks like wanting more but feeling guilty because you already have so much.

You are succeeding. That is the trap.

So you perform gratitude instead of pursuing what you want. You say yes to more responsibility instead of negotiating for more money. And when someone takes advantage of that, you don't flinch. Because the system trained you to call that being a team player.